ALZHEIMER’S, YOUR PARENTS AND THEIR DECISIONS
“How did your annual physical go, Dad?”
“Dr. T. says I lost 50 pounds.”
I take a deep breath. “Since last year?” I ask.
Fifty pounds? Dad was already skinny. Did he even have that much weight to spare? That’s why his belt was cinched so tight last time I saw him.
Refocusing on the conversation, I dig deeper. “And what did Dr. T. say about that?
“He said that I need to make a change,” Dad explains. “He says that it’s my responsibility to care for Mom, and that I can only do that if I take care of myself first.”
I take a deep breath in. “So what are you thinking?”
“It’s time to look for a Memory Care Facility for your Mom.”
After all these years. After all my other-than-perfect efforts to support my Dad – I have finally learned a few things. I learned that ultimately, Dad will make all the decisions about Mom’s care himself. I learned that there are better uses of my energy than trying to speed Dad toward a decision before he was ready. My opportunity was to grow my patience and my compassion, as I learned to work on Dad’s timeline.
Has your Alzheimer’s Caregiver finally agreed to accept help with caring for your Alzheimer’s Loved One? If not, what role can you play in encouraging this, without forcing their hand? By letting the Alzheimer’s Caregiver arrive to this conclusion on their own time, you may find that you will have grown in your own unique ways, too.